This is all really overwhelming. Have others been through this?
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Elana, Partner of a Survivor
We both needed a tremendous amount of support. Andy was number one and I really was focused on him and I think one of the biggest issues with providing support and being a loved one who gives support, whether it's your husband, your wife, your daughter, your parent, I think the hardest part is that you end up not caring for yourself. So, Andy received a tremendous amount of support from family and friends. I think that caregivers need to learn to ask for support for themselves as well and I was in the unfortunate situation that my parents were out of the country trying to get home…It all happened so fast with us that I think most people in the caregiving situation need to take a step back and ask for support for themselves because I think it was 2 or 2 and a half days before someone came over and said to me, “Have you eaten? Have you had any water?” I don’t think I had had a glass of water in 2 and a half days. So, support is a pretty big word because in the situation that we were in, we both needed the support. I was whole heartedly there for him and yet not caring for myself. And the caregiver need to care for themselves as well or they cannot help the person that’s going through cancer.