How do we cope with infertility, or the prospect of it?

Elana: I think one of the greatest things that we can tell other couples that are going through infertility or who are faced with infertility is that it is a process. It is a long process. And when we first started we didn’t quite believe….we have a friend who is a urologist tell us “It’s going to take a long time…” And I was like “Eh! I make everything happen quickly…You know, I get things done.” But, you know what? It’s a long process…it’s an emotional process, it’s a physical process…there are a lot of elements involved, but, on the other hand, it is so worth it in the end. No matter what you have to go through, no matter how many shots you have to go through, no matter what decisions you have to go through, whether you going to have to decide to use donor sperm or a donor egg or a surrogate or adoption. All of those things in the long term…won’t matter. Once you’ve made the decision and you have a child or the prospect of having a child, like we do right now, it just won’t matter. It’s a long process, but you’ll get there

Andy: And talk openly. I think communication is so important. We didn’t have on argument or one fight during this process because one thing we really did was make sure we talked openly and honestly during this process. We made sure we were both understanding where the other person is coming from because we were not on the same page…we are now, but we were not on the same page. She was much further along than I was. Mentally I couldn’t deal with it, I couldn’t think about it. All I kept thinking was, I’m going to be in that 66%, I’m going to get my sperm back, I’m going to be able to have a kid naturally…By us being on the same page and talking open and honestly, I think that was one of the big things that helped us through this stressful process.